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Posted by lost-in-therpy on December 3, 2003, at 14:37:51
ok here it is i have been in therpy for awhile for depression and agoraphiba and panic attacks which are alot better then they have ever been.. my problem is that i am in lobe with my therapist and i havent told him ... is this normal ? sjould i tell him? what if i get disscharged? i am so confused .. it is totally crazy i dress nice to go the the appts. i make sure i am there early it is driving me insane some please help !!
Posted by Joslynn on December 3, 2003, at 15:58:36
In reply to help transfernce, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 3, 2003, at 14:37:51
Everything you are feeling is perfectly normal and dozens of us here have gone thru the same thing. To get a good background, you may want to search this forum using the word "transference". There you will see a lot of wisdom from many smart posters who can explain it better than I can.
An excellent book is "In Session"
A good, experienced therapist will not discharge you for transference, since they should know it is a common outgrowth of therapy. In fact, it is considered a goal by many therapists, although that may sounds strange to you as you suffer through the feelings of yearning.
A not-so-good therapist may not be able to handle it. There are those rare occasions.
How and when you tell him or her is up to you. Some people just come out with it, other people allude to it in dreams etc., others don't say anything. I think the basic idea is that talking about it is a way to deal with it and move through it, but that can be easier said than done.
You are not alone in this, just do a search, and you will see. :)
Posted by lost-in-therpy on December 3, 2003, at 16:31:26
In reply to Re: help transfernce, posted by Joslynn on December 3, 2003, at 15:58:36
how do i go about teeling him??do i just hey im in love with u lol i dunno
Posted by fallsfall on December 4, 2003, at 8:23:35
In reply to Re: help transfernce » Joslynn, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 3, 2003, at 16:31:26
"Something is happening in my life that I don't quite know how to deal with. I find that I spend all my time thinking about you, wanting to be with you, missing you. It is very distracting for me. It feels a lot like being in love. What am I supposed to do about this?"
Posted by lost-in-therpy on December 4, 2003, at 22:27:02
In reply to help transfernce, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 3, 2003, at 14:37:51
well i go to therpy tomorrow and i am scared to death i want to tell him any advice on how to bring it out in the open
Posted by stjames on December 6, 2003, at 2:56:44
In reply to help, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 4, 2003, at 22:27:02
Just say it ! I am sure this is not the first, second or third time your T has heard this.
Posted by lost-in-therpy on December 6, 2003, at 22:58:56
In reply to Re: help, posted by stjames on December 6, 2003, at 2:56:44
inwhat way do i bring it up or do i hint around to it ... u have to rember i am scared to death
Posted by fallsfall on December 7, 2003, at 13:24:55
In reply to Re: help, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 6, 2003, at 22:58:56
You could print out your posts and give them to him, or say something like this:
"Something is happening in my life that I don't quite know how to deal with. I find that I spend all my time thinking about you, wanting to be with you, missing you. It is very distracting for me. It feels a lot like being in love. What am I supposed to do about this?"
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2003, at 13:30:33
In reply to Re: help, posted by lost-in-therpy on December 6, 2003, at 22:58:56
If you have a CBT therapist, I think Miss Honeychurch's way of telling was the best I've heard anywhere. I don't see how any therapist could be threatened by that one.
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