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Posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 4:33:15
my shrink/therapist just spent 50 minutes of our hour session talking about himself. I landed up interrupting in the last few minutes and said i had some questions i needed answered. typically (for me) i left hiding my anger, was very pleasant to him, $200 poorer and a 100 mile drive home. he has gone into tangents that last about 15-20 minutes and i really don't mind those. i hope this was a one time occurrence, and i probably should move on. just venting. thanks, judy
Posted by ROO on October 30, 2002, at 11:56:06
In reply to has this happened to you?, posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 4:33:15
I think that is nuts and completely unacceptable. And
this man calls himself a professional and is getting
paid as one? No, no, no. You should not be paying him
anything. Isn't there someone else you can see? You deserve
so much more! You give everyone else on this board so much more
than THAT!
Posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 15:51:59
In reply to Re: has this happened to you?, posted by ROO on October 30, 2002, at 11:56:06
Thanks for the sympathy, Roo. I think he realizes he was wrong, there has been a lot of phone activity (pretty much daily) the past week trying to get this whole Truehope thing down (I'll post on PB about that), and he has never charged for calls. I've had a lot of shrinks and the majority have had pretty strong egos (who liked the sound of their own voices), he probably wins that prize. I agree it's unacceptable to be therapist to the therapist, it's my nature to listen, I just need to stand up for myself more- well, one day:-). That was a sweet what you wrote about giving to the board, I really appreciate it. take care, judy
Posted by Dinah on October 30, 2002, at 17:13:07
In reply to has this happened to you?, posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 4:33:15
Oh dear, Judy. I can't say that exact thing has happened to me (although I have heard others tell stories of the same thing). I'm pretty good at the the pointed change of subject, and he's pretty good at taking a hint.
But since I know you're happy with your treatment team, I'll just remind you what I remind myself sometimes. They all have their good days and their bad days. There are times when my session is probably unproductive, or counterproductive, because my therapist is off that day. :(
What bothers me more is your saying he goes off on tangents for 15 minutes at a time. That's a big chunk of therapy time. Is it difficult for you to discuss these things with him?
Posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 18:08:08
In reply to Re: has this happened to you? » judy1, posted by Dinah on October 30, 2002, at 17:13:07
you are so right about the bad days, after 3 years there will be some. he does give me a full hour, and the type of therapy he practices is I tell you something and you tell me- which actually works pretty well with me. I need that closeness in order to trust and he's aware of it, maybe we'll take it down to 10 minutes :-). Thanks, judy
Posted by Dinah on October 31, 2002, at 0:54:37
In reply to Re: has this happened to you? » Dinah, posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 18:08:08
Chuckle. I understand that type of therapy quite well. I think my therapist and I gradually drifted into it ourselves. It does help the trust a lot more than a blank slate approach. And decreases the misunderstandings.
I think trying to reducing his sharing time while increasing your sharing time would be a worthwhile therapeutic goal. Good luck with it.
Dinah
Posted by deets on November 7, 2002, at 18:48:56
In reply to has this happened to you?, posted by judy1 on October 30, 2002, at 4:33:15
I've had similar things happen to me. For example, when discussing my eating disorder I've had a therapist say, "Yeah. I know what you mean. I was on this diet one time . . . ." I stopped going to her.
Self-disclosure on the part of the therapist is very unproffesional. You're paying your therapist to talk about yourself, you don't need their issues on top of yours. Every counseling class I've taken so far has stressed many times that the therapist should not talk about themselves. It's not productive to you and it disregards the profesional boundaries of the therepeutic relationship. Not to mention that it's a waste of your time & money. I'd find a new therapist.
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