Posted by TexasChic on February 3, 2006, at 18:01:12
In reply to I cried at work AGAIN today. » ClearSkies, posted by TexasChic on February 2, 2006, at 19:44:26
I got up the guts to ask cold-shoulder-girl what was up. This was a REALLY hard thing for me. I was shaking. I had been thinking about it all day, and I decided instead of saying, "Are you mad at me?" I would say "You're obviously mad at me about something. I was wondering if you would be willing to discuss it." Well, to make a long story short, she wasn't ever mad at me!
She told me has been going through alot because her brother has Lukemia, which I knew about. But I felt she made a sudden change in her behavior, rather than an on-going thing. I think what happened is I was upset about family stuff and keeping to myself, and she took that as disinterest.
Another thing is she and the other two are like a pack, they're always together. That's too much togetherness for me, mainly because of the loud mouth one. She brought up that I always go outside with the guys for break, so they never know what I want to do. This struck me as a revealing statement. I think since I wasn't conforming to the way they thought I should act, it made them think I was being stand-offish.
I told her I had gone through this already with the other two over the summer, so I just thought 'here we go again'. She said she didn't know that (though I did tell her). So we talked it out, and it ended with us agreeing it was a misunderstanding.
So-o-o, now I feel a little stupid, and wish I had asked, "Are you mad at me?" rather than what I said. But, I also feel that under the circumstances, I wasn't totally wacked out to think what I did. But I kind of worry that she will now think I'm inmature. Is it a wonder I can't hang on to female friends?
-T
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