Posted by alexandra_k on February 11, 2005, at 22:11:29
In reply to Re: Support versus Education » Dinah, posted by Gabbi-x-2 on February 11, 2005, at 21:49:39
I mean, I posted it because my thinking was along the lines of Dinah's.
> The way it was pointed that the person got "MOST OFFENDED" makes me think that the suggestion had a bit of a personal edge to it
This person gets MOST OFFENDED maybe 4 days out of 7 (and not just at me). That was sort of one of the symptoms I had in mind...
>why single out one person, unless you yourself have the disorder and then there is a connection.
Well I would hardly provide a link to a disorder I knew nothing about.
> I'm also guessing that if someone was hurt by it, it was likely suggested that they may "consider" the possiblity of having a disorder which implied something wrong with their entire being, rather than one aspect of it.I am not sure they would see the difference there. Not only that, but it was a link to a personality disorder yes.
> It's so easy to forget just how close to the edge someone may be, and I think offering such a suggestion could be a dangerous thing, as well as arrogant.I did carefully select non-judgemental links that were good descriptions of symptoms from the experiencer's point of view. The idea behind it was 'these problems are inter-related', other people have similar stuff, there is hope. Also, the person often asks *why* this sort of thing *always happens* to her. The links provided something of a non-judgemental answer.
But I agree with you.
It wasn't my place.
Probably did it out of frustration more than I would like to admit.
Need to get better at the old self-control.
Learn to leave things alone.
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