Posted by sar on February 25, 2002, at 19:32:18
In reply to Re: disturbing card, posted by trouble on February 18, 2002, at 2:33:37
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> A psychic gave me a piece of advice regarding my own ma that turned out to be true. She said, "This relationship will never change but the more YOU heal the more the relationship will heal."that's true true true...but do you suppose it works both ways--that they'll have to improve too? they seem to be worsening.
> Sorry if this sounds vapid (it did to me), but both predictions turned out to be as fully realized as the more linear counsel I'd been offered, especially the latter remark.i'm sorry about your mother. i read the post a couple of weeks ago in which you describe her more fully, so i realize that closure on that type of relationship--your mother, the person who ought to be your *protector*--must have been very difficult.
> I do sometimes find myself wishing my mother was still here b/c NOW I KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO HER, but then I realize that it's enough if I finally know what to say to her, as it damn well better be since we both know that dead or alive my mom has deaf ears.
mine too! they probably should have gotten together to snatch spatulas out of each others hands and then smack their own "fannies." :)
> Sounds like your parents may be similarly afflicted.
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> troublethanks for the insight...i like the idea of focusing on myself as a means of improving my relationships.
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