Posted by kazoo on February 25, 2002, at 2:28:36
In reply to What I have learned in my 42 years, posted by Gracie2 on February 24, 2002, at 2:43:37
> *Learn to accept that your emotional problems may have been caused not only by genetics or a poor environmental upbringing. Blaming your rotten parents may bring temporary relief, but it's destructive to continue to blame them for your mental state. It's a terrible trap to continue blaming your family for all your problems and then stop there, with the excuse for your past to blame your mental problems in the present. This is a crutch that a weak person leans on. At some point it's time to move past that and to finally start accepting your actions as a product of your own thinking. This is a great step towards maturity.
^^^^^^^^^^Bravo, Gracie!
Now, what do I tell my sister, who is 59 years old this year, that she can't blame her parents anymore for her rotten life now that both are dead? Should I tell her to look in the mirror and watch her sins accumulate, layered so thickly that even a hammer and chisel are useless?
Are you reading this "Mary Queen of Snots"? Has it hit you yet, dear? Did the realization of a "conspicuous absence" finally sink in your damp, ignorant psyche yet? Is there something or someone missing from your life or are you too stupid to know any better?
On December 6, 2001, I lost two people: (1) my mother to Eternity ... (2) my sister to avarice, selfishness, deceit. I mourn for my mother and will do so for a very long time. As for the "other" ... what "other"?
kazoo
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