Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2002, at 19:51:19
In reply to Re: Healing therapy appt last night (long but happy) » Dinah, posted by Mair on February 23, 2002, at 16:57:48
Yes Mair, I found it interesting too. And it explains a lot. And it even makes sense in it's own way. The problem is that it never fails to increase my distress, and in fact makes me absolutely frantic, as it somehow brings up very primal fears.
When he explained, I asked "So what can we each do differently because this really isn't working. There just has to be a better alternative." And he remembered a Native American story about remaining where you are when you are lost because the birds and trees aren't lost or something like that. I guess the important thing is that we're each more aware of what's happening and, in theory at least, we should be able to do things better next time. I mean, I certainly am glad that he's keeping his wits about him, but it would help if he didn't do it in a way that habitually causes me to lose mine. :)
And I'm trying to see how the same thing happens on my side in my own relationships, and evaluate whether there are more effective ways I can do things. Because I have a sneaking suspicion that I back away and become exceedingly rational in emotional situations too.
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