Posted by Lola1969 on September 24, 2013, at 11:07:10
In reply to Re: Question about attatchment in therapy, posted by baseball55 on September 21, 2013, at 0:38:05
> The idea that he feels attached to you as you do to him is unrealistic, He has a life -- family, friends, etc -- that fills his free time. This is not to say that he doesn't care about you. Or even love you. My t once said that he probably spends more time i-with me (an hour a week) than He does with most friends. But I am not his friend or child or lover or wife. He means a lot more to me than I do to him. Our relationship is bounded by the walls of his office.
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> That's the nature of therapy. BE happy he is willing to continue with him. Hw cares about you and worries over you. You can't really ask or expect much more.I have to agree completely with here. I feel an extremely strong attachment (for me also attraction) to my psychiatrist. For the longest time I wondered if he felt the same and thought about me outside the office, etc. After being accepted into a Masters program for psychology, I finally get it. It's not that they don't care for their clients, if they are human of course they do. But it's just not possible to care on the same level that we do for them. I think it can be similar to the way a student feels for a beloved teacher, albiet more intense. But the attachment can't be on the same level as the client, it's just not realistic. They have many clients, but we only have one T or PDoc. They wouldn't function very well or be very good at their job if they couldn't keep the caring within boundaries (and it must take lots of practice and self control). But I think the best and most effective T's keep the relationship and attachment in the office as best they can.
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