Posted by Chan Fook on November 9, 2010, at 16:39:56
In reply to Re: I am so sad in my marriage what to do » Dinah, posted by Solstice on November 8, 2010, at 10:52:19
Hi DAAIM,
I read your story, and I believe everyone has the right to search for someone better in them, IF they think that they exist and are not the person they are currently with at the moment. If you think that he isn't "the one", then so be it, but what exactly are your goals from breaking up with him? How will you guys go between taking care of the kids at such a delicate age? The act of separation of husband and wife can be easy and selfish, or you can take it one step further to prepare yourself so you don't ever feel guilty about your options.
Now as for it not working between you two, I hate to bring it up, but it is very important between a functioning couple, but how is your sex life? I've always said to all my friends that there are two distinct features of a long-term relationship or marriage: good love, good sex. Failing either one can bring a relationship to an end or make some depressed. People might comment on this back and tell me I'm wrong, but deep down, for a relationship to really last, you need these two to be solid during the relationship.
If the sex isn't great, why isn't it? How can it be improved or CAN it be improved? Lots of people go through the stage in life asking themselves the question "can I do better" or "but I've never done this before", like you said, you think your youth is running out and you'd like to experiment. But, can you save your marriage, can you still experiment with him? Sex counselling with your partner will be an amazing way to revitalize your relationship from a sexual point of view. Read some books on saucing up your sex life, etc.
I know I've rambled on, but I like helping people in their tough patches.
Hope that helps,
Chan Fook.
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