Posted by wittgensteinz on September 26, 2010, at 13:04:29
In reply to the next step?, posted by twinleaf on September 26, 2010, at 12:12:31
There are different types of silences (probably the same goes for the closing of eyes - I've closed my eyes in shame enough times or completely turned my body away from him - it took a great deal of courage to sit back up straight again and open them - if I recall, I said something like "how could I ever possibly open my eyes again?" - the shame of showing ones shame is quite awful).
My first session back after a break tends to be one filled with long silences - not nice silences - cold, empty, distrusting silences. I have happily never gone an entire session in silence though.
Then there are those silences which follow the sharing/realisation of something special - profound - that then culminate in a powerful 'shared silence' (rather than an inflicted one). Perhaps you begin to talk again because the intensity is too much? This is something I have found. Just as we have to adapt to the discomfort of shame, we also have to learn to tolerate the discomfort of intimacy/closeness.
Witti
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