Posted by sassyfrancesca on November 5, 2008, at 10:04:20
In reply to Re: I Wonder if Anyone Else Has Felt Like This » sassyfrancesca, posted by Dinah on November 5, 2008, at 8:49:18
> > If I tell him before I absolutely have to, it will cause me MORE anxiety; either way the outcome will be the same.
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> Outcome isn't all that's at stake. Reaction to outcome, and preparation for outcome, is at least as important.Yes, I have been psyching myself up for quite a long time.
That's what therapy helps us with. Therapy can't change the outcome in any number of things. It just helps us deal with it.
If I tell him before I want to it will be upsetting; gotta follow my gut instinct.
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> Would you mind saying more about the anxiety?it is anxiety-producing to know it is coming, just because there is nothing I can do about it.
I don't want to press you if you don't wish to, but I don't really understand. I'd feel enormously anxious to keep a secret from my therapist. Even those things I swear I'll never say to him generally pop out of my mouth because any secret looms so large in my brain. Especially one that involves him. I don't know your therapist of course. But I know mine would be pretty annoyed
he won't be annoyed, I know....he will want to discuss the situation with me.
with me, despite the fact that he keeps things from me that would involve the continuation of therapy.
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> So I'm not really sure how telling him would involve more anxiety rather than shared anxiety?Wish I could explain it better; guess i am hoping something will happen (like a new job I have bid on at work), so that I won't have to have the conversation.
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> I don't mean to bother you with this of course. And you can feel free to ignore my post.Oh, you aren't bothering me; giving me something to think about, and I appreciate it. I would never ignore your post!
Hugs, Sassy
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