Posted by B2chica on August 10, 2007, at 15:08:17
In reply to Re: getting back into therapy. » Squiggles, posted by Tamar on August 10, 2007, at 15:02:25
> > If it can be done, great, but what about situations where you can change your response through therapy but an abuser can't, won't or will kill you if you try to stand up to him?
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> I think in a situation like the one you describe, a therapist's task would be to help the client to acknowledge the severity of the abuse and help her/him to restore enough of a sense of self to leave the abuser. Victims in a situation like this are often afraid to leave and can even come to believe that they deserve to be abused.VERY well said Tamar.
thank you.
> > That is the kind of psychoanalysis that people need; what Ts do is never that heavy.
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> Sorry to disagree, but this is a very common experience for therapists. Domestic violence is widespread, and therapists frequently work with clients who live with abusers. Perhaps some therapists are less skilled in that area than others, but it's by no means an uncommon reason to be in therapy. And sometimes it takes a lot of therapy before the victim is able to leave the abuser, because the domestic abuse is so psychologically damaging.
after hearing what you've said Tamar, i agree with you completely.
although i know all too well that DA can be an issue in thearpy, i guess i've not thought of how a T would actually respond to that.
-you've said it very well.
thank you.
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