Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on February 11, 2007, at 12:08:26
In reply to Re: Maybe I'm not so good at therapy *assorted Tri » Llurpsie_Noodle, posted by Dinah on February 11, 2007, at 10:24:54
> Are you ok with the goals she listed?
these are all good questions D, I will need to think about them and reply later. thanks for your post.
-L
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> I think I would have been a bit resistant to a therapist telling me what my therapy goals were. Did she present them as an idea for you to comment on and discuss to modification as needed, or as a done deal?
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> Are your goals the same as hers? Would you describe them differently, even if in very broad terms you agree? Are there any unspoken goals you have that you'd rather bury if asked to explicitly state them? Are there any goals you feel like you know are there, but that are too inchoate to reduce to a statement?
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> Did you feel like she was being less than compassionate to you in being so blunt? Or that she was setting an impossible assignment? As opposed to the two of you working together to decide what it is *you* wanted?
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> There are times when my goals for therapy and what my therapist thought my goals should be would have differed quite a bit. Sometimes I was right, and sometimes he was right. And they were'nt always expressly stated. But I doubt that I ever just accepted them as presented. At first I probably acted out my objections and later I learned to say "Hold on here a second. This is my therapy. Do you think maybe you should check with me?"
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