Posted by muffled on September 25, 2006, at 10:48:38
In reply to Re: No you don't... » muffled, posted by TherapyGirl on September 24, 2006, at 20:51:03
> I do understand how mixed up you're feeling. I've been there, too, trying to figure out what my T thinks and feels about me, trying to figure out whether or not I can believe her. And the answer to that (for me) is YES. That's not to say she has never let me down -- she has not called when she said she would; she has sometimes withheld information (like about moving her office) until the last possible minute because SHE decided that would be best for me (it wasn't). But the mistakes she has made are because she is HUMAN and/or because she was trying to do right by me. I get mad at her, we discuss, she apologizes if it's appropriate (and I apologize if I've been mean) and we move on. Because she has stuck by me when no one else has.
>***Thanks for understanding.
yeah,i reckon my t is human.
Cept now this a.m. I am mad now!
See how I must drive her nuts!
I more familiar w/anger.
I just wanto phone her up and give her sh*t.
But then that would be assuming she cared, or that I was expecting something I shouldn't have, or something????
I don't understand all this stuff.............> I really, really, truly believe that your T may be like that, too. So, yes, I think you should fax your writing to her -- it was beautifully put and painful to read, but she needs to know what you're thinking. And then I think you should encourage her to be brutally honest with you (if that's what you think you need). It's possible that you are a challenge, a handful AND someone she cares about and wants to work with all rolled into one, right? Like with kids -- some days, you just want to pull your hair out but that doesn't mean you don't love them or that you want to leave them.
***now you got me!!! The thing with kids. Totally. Slam dunk! So while now I feel mad, I still like her. even if I don't understand her.....
Guess I kinda scared too some....
If I was to be brutally honest....
>
> Please give her a chance to make this right, Muffy. I'd be very surprised if she doesn't see the kind, caring woman we see here on Babble.Thank you.
I guess I got to give her a chance to explain....
Though in the past it seems to feel more like she making excuses at the same time...
Sometimes it feels more like she my sister than my T.....
I am SO CONFUSED!!!???
However...it'd proly be educational to work thru this, though it seems sort of circular,,,,
Hell, I dunno,
thanks so much for listening TG.
Muffled
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