Posted by Racer on September 17, 2006, at 13:56:18
In reply to Re: is this ok? » Daisym, posted by sunnydays on September 17, 2006, at 10:41:23
> But it's so hard! (my T is really trying to get me stop saying that and to put a feeling to it, like I'm sad or angry that I have to do this or something... but that's awfully hard too).
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>FallsFall came up with something she calls "Emotional Confetti," which helps a lot with that. She helped me make some, too, and it really is helpful.
You write down all the emotion words you can, cut them apart into individual words, and toss them into the air. When they come down, pick them up one at a time, and see if it fits what you're feeling. If it doesn't, put it away. If it does, put it aside. When you're done, see what you're feeling -- there's likely some pattern you'll see. Sometimes, you'll pick one word, then later find another that fits better, so you can replace the one that you picked first.
It's not a method for the pathologically detail oriented (how's that for a polite way of putting it?), but if you just do it in a sort of playful way, it helps you learn to identify your feelings.
When I first heard of it, I said, "Ah, that's too silly -- I"ll just read down this list of emotion words and do it that way." That didn't work for me, though. It really did need to be individual words, otherwise I was thinking too much and feeling too little.
Hope that helps.
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