Posted by pegasus on March 12, 2006, at 15:33:54
In reply to Re: tranference or real feelings? » pegasus, posted by wishingstar on March 11, 2006, at 20:51:08
Oh, wow, wishingstar, I can really hear how hard you're trying to communicate with your T. And that she doesn't seem to be hearing you. I'm not sure why it would be relevant whether your feelings are because she's really not hearing you, or because you're having some kind of transference. Either way, it's clear that you really do feel unheard. It seems to me that's an important theme to explore in your therapy. Her failure to address it must be very painful for you.
I'm so sorry that she's not taking your explanations of how poorly you're doing seriously. Or at least not communicating it to you, if she is. I guess she thinks she is communicating better than she is? That must be what she means by labeling your feelings as transference.
I can't imagine why she wouldn't tell you the explicit things you're saying you need to hear from her. I mean, is there some therapeutic reason that she would decline to do that? Or is she just forgetting? Or what?
Is there any way you could take your post to her and let her read it? Or are you afraid that she still wouldn't respond sufficiently, and then you'd feel even worse?
Whatever ends up happening with your T, please let us know how you're doing, and we'll try to hear you.
peg
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