Posted by orchid on December 12, 2005, at 21:13:55
In reply to Need Some Insight, posted by daisym on December 12, 2005, at 20:14:16
It is possibly a multiple number of factors that are going on in the boards these days. The conflict about jokes about our Ts, some terminations etc. Conflicts and the arguments around it are hard for people who are sensitive to it to take. As EE said, when people around me are arguing I get upset too, even if they have nothing to do with me. I used to get anxious all the time in my childhood when my parents were fighting, and I suppose you are also experiencing it now.
And maybe also you feel uncomfortable reading different styles of relating to their Ts and some of the freedom that some people here enjoy with their T or when they are certain that their Ts are attracted to them. Maybe it is making you wonder if your T is attracted to you and if you suspect it, maybe it is triggering things about your abuse. Or maybe it is making you think, why my T doesn't seem to be attracted to me (if you think he isn't attracted to you) and it might be bringing out issues of rejection etc.
In any case, the discussions on this board can have the effect to be extremely disconcerting on any given day. So please try to be cautious about reading the threads. And even if you start reading something, if it triggers, stop reading further. And take care of yourself.
poster:orchid
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