Posted by Tamar on October 23, 2005, at 18:15:32
In reply to Re: unable to get moving/feeling guilty » Tamar, posted by fairywings on October 23, 2005, at 17:41:50
> i think a lot of what i'm feeling is hormonal. my cycles are all messed up, so i never know when pms will hit. when it does it hits me hard for awhile, but i never know if it's pms because things are messed up.
Ah, that’s never fun. Having a messed-up hormonal cycle is the last thing you need right now! I’m guessing you don’t want to take the pill? A friend of mine takes something herbal to keep things in balance… I’ll ask her what it is…
> thanks, i hate that i can't handle being around the kids when it gets so chaotic. i love them so much and don't want them to think i don't. my one son bounces off the walls, and it drives me batty. i have to leave because sometimes i'm afraid i'll say things that i'm worried he will interpret as attacks on him, and i don't want to do that. i just can't handle the massive energy he has ALL day and night.Well, with all that to cope with I think you’re doing a really good job. I only have three kids and none of them have ADHD and they’re still hard work. So give yourself credit for being able to keep going. I’ll bet you never get enough sleep.
> thanks, i appreciate that. i'm not a good friend though, i've let all my friendships go, and i regret it, feels awful.
I think Rainbowbrite made some really good points about this. Friends don’t always understand and if you pull away perhaps they think you need space or they just don’t get it. But if they’re real friends they’ll be there when you’re ready. I have to admit, I just can’t handle social contact when I’m really depressed. Fortunately my closest friends know I’ll come back and they’re prepared to wait when it happens. Maybe your friends are just waiting until you’re ready.
> i'm glad to know that, i hope you're right, i do feel worse, even though my T is great. wish it would go faster.The only thing to do is to take it one day at a time. You WILL get there.
> he has been good about things. he does support me taking time for exercise. he listens sometimes, but sometimes he pretends to listen but it's obvious he hasn't been and that feels worse.
Depression can cause problems in intimate relationships. You might feel very neglected or misunderstood. From everything you’ve said before he’ll be there for you as much as possible. He might be struggling to cope too…
> i can't let him pay the bills, i took them over because he didn't pay the car ins. once a long time ago, and the bank took it out on the car, and cost us a sh*tload of $. He paid bills late, and we got late fees. i pay online, so i'm pretty good about that.I’m starting to think we might be married to the same man! My husband never pays anything on time. I’m surprised we still have a house to live in…
> thanks tamar, I will try to do all of that, the dog would love a walk! ; ) Gosh it's cold here, is it cold where you are? I'm cold to the bone, i can never shake that.
It’s not too cold yet where I am. But then, I don’t feel the cold. When I go out everyone’s in winter coats but I’m still in short sleeves. Must be the extra 50 pounds…
You take care of yourself.
Tamar
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