Posted by fallsfall on October 22, 2005, at 20:43:49
In reply to Re: Counter-transference : a novel / » fallsfall, posted by happyflower on October 22, 2005, at 19:13:32
> You know falls, this is what I think. It is your life, and you can do whatever you want to do about it. Your T can't tell you what to do.He isn't telling me what I can do. He is telling me what he thinks is helpful to me. He is well aware that it is my decision what I do.
But maybe the only thing that I would change is discussing it with him. You know how he feels about it. Maybe he is feeling a little exposed or threatened about you talking about yourself and his therapy in a public form.
I am SURE that NOT telling him about it is the wrong thing for me to do. Hiding things from him makes his job impossible - and that means that he can't help me. If I want him to help me then I have to be as honest as I can with him - whether he likes it or not.
I could be wrong though. I would just do what makes you feel good, and let him deal with his own problems! LOL
But what makes me feel good (i.e. what I have done in the past) hasn't worked in my favor. If it had, I wouldn't be here on Babble today. If my first instincts led me down the best path, I wouldn't need a therapist at all. I HAVE to try things that are outside of my comfort zone if anything in my life is going to be different.
I miss your posts, by the way. :)Thanks, Happyflower.
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