Posted by 10derHeart on July 21, 2005, at 22:34:03
In reply to Pinkeye a bit long, posted by rockymtnhi on July 21, 2005, at 20:04:34
>Therapy with a male T is NOT dangerous for women. Not this one, anyway.
I agree with you there - not for me, either.
I am on male T. #2 and doing very well.
I'm getting quite attached and I know ANY kind of painful feelings COULD arise as we go on. I know - I've been there. But it's worth it to me. Essential even.
But it may well be I'm far more relaxed and open and hopeful, because as Pinkeye knows all too well, I had a "successful termination." Very much so, but not without contact afterwards. I still have the contact, but about 95% of the painful feelings of longing have resolved with time (it's been about 1 year)
(I won't write any more about that termination in this thread, as I know Pinkeye was asking about scenarios where the T. handled it other ways - in fact, probably about the complete opposite of mine.)
To each their own, I guess. It's hard to anticipate which sex T. might be best. Many posters here have expressed that it just doesn't matter - to just strive to find a competent, empathetic T., no matter the gender. If the relationship is truly therapeutic and *right* for both, anyone can develop any sort of feelings - romantic, sexual included - toward any gender T., IMO.
For me, I'd imagine it was *more* likely with my ex-T., us both being heterosexual, close in age, similar value system, religious beliefs, etc., and him having physical, intellectual and emotional attributes I'd find very appealing in any man. So sure, the risk was/is higher.
And if I'd gone through it like Pinkeye did, I imagine I'd be absolutely defensive, demoralized and terrified of it happening again. It is understandable.
But for me, I have stuff best resolved with a man. Not sure how I exactly know that, but I just do.
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