Posted by crushedout on June 24, 2005, at 12:23:34
In reply to Re: Very frustrated with therapy, posted by happyflower on June 24, 2005, at 7:30:43
Hi Happyflower,I kind of have brought up my frustration and also have indicated annoyance at being asked the same questions over and over, but I don't think she can help it. I've always kind of wondered how therapists can remember so many details of so many people's lives. I guess some of them are better at it than others.
I don't feel like she isn't focused on me, thankfully. She never seems distracted. She seems to really be trying also. That's what makes it so hard to criticize her. It feels hurtful.
I think you're right that sometimes we expect too much from them. On the other hand, maybe we get to expect a lot. My friend just started seeing a therapist a few weeks ago and he's already fallen asleep on her twice. She makes excuses for him. I would have fired his *ss on the spot. That's crazy.
Anyway, my next appt. is on Monday. I guess I'll try to bring some of this stuff up with her then. At least I'm thinking of mentioning my thinking about going to see someone else and how hard that would be, such that it seems impossible. I don't know if I'll actually have the guts to do that. I really like Daisy's idea, though, of asking *her* what she sees as her strengths and weaknesses. I definitely want to try that. This seems important to address, even if I need to do it tactfully.
> HI! Could you maybe bring up to her that you feel she is not focused on you, that she seems to repeat herself and it is frusterating you ? She seems to be open.
> I think it is commom for clients to put our T's on a pedestal which makes it tough for them to live up to our standards. My T is always checking this with me, he doesn't want me to think he is better than me, he want me to feel empowered to solve my problems myself but with his guidance. I think sometime we expect too much from them. Sometimes I think he can read my emotions, but he has pointed out to me that if I don't tell him how I feel, he doesn't always know, he doesn't have ESP. lol Let us know how it goes, when is your next appointment?
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