Posted by Joslynn on December 28, 2004, at 9:04:06
In reply to Therapist Attachment, posted by Camille Dumont on December 27, 2004, at 17:32:50
Also, some therapists do not believe in creating or using attachment in the psychological sense of the word. My therapist came out and told me something like "oh I don't believe in attachment as a technique, I think you have to be careful with that, if the client just attaches to me then they set up a new dependency." Something like that. This may sound cold, but she really is a very empowering therapist and is especially good at seeing how family-learned dynamics play out and how I can change them both in my family of origin and in my personal life.
But I also want to tell her, um, just because you don't beieve in attachment doesn't mean it won't happen.
That said, I never felt that emotional, tender attachment to her that I felt for my male pdoc. I attribtued that to the fact that he is male and I have father issues, while my relationships with female friends and my Mom are good. But now I wonder if it is just her style, and the pdoc has more of a tradtional style, regarding attachment.
I guess my point is, if the T doesn't try to create that attachment, but has more of a "coach" or "advocate" style, that could explain why the attachment isn't that deep...not necessarily because of the client, but because of the therapist style.
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