Posted by Rigby on August 22, 2004, at 12:19:48
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff » Rigby, posted by tabitha on August 20, 2004, at 14:29:29
Hi Tabitha,
Thanks for writing.
She did apologize for this pretty quickly so that was cool. And it did feel a bit gossipy but not horrible or anything. To me the worst was that it triggered my feelings of how poorly therapy went for me in the beginning--and how my therapist messed up her boundaries before.
We did talk about how her remark triggered me to think back on my therapy. I guess what I didn't talk about was exactly what I'm saying to you about boundaries. She was inconsistent; she got overly involved and admitted this--that I'd drawn her in and she was in too deep. Then she pulled way back, was as cold as she was warm and I reeled from that for a while. I finally was able to actually make some great progress from her doing that but maybe that was more like making lemonade from lemons than great therapy. Hmmm...
> I would be bothered by her wanting to know the full name of the therapist and commenting on it. I talk about a therapist friend sometime and I'm careful to never mention his full name. The sessions are supposed to be about me-- it seems like telling real names of other therapists would turn it into gossip somehow. People have different ideas about boundaries. Maybe it would be useful to tell her how you felt about this.
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