Posted by steelmagnolia25 on August 21, 2004, at 20:49:47
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff, posted by gardenergirl on August 20, 2004, at 22:46:55
> My advisor told me once when we were having some boundary issues ourselves that he does a lot of his best thinking while in the shower. He then proceeded to tell me an insight he had about our working relationship and recent problems. OMG! He was thinking of me while he was in the shower! was all I could think. Ewwww, the visual image!
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>I echo OMG! I had a somewhat related conversation with my ex-T. He told me once that he "takes me home with him" when we were discussing his feelings for me. A few sessions later I told him that I would prefer that he only use direct statements with minimal ambiguity because I hate guessing what he means. He asked for an example, so I said, "When you said you take me home with you, does that mean you think about me during off-hours with a normal therapist's concern, or are you thinking of me while you're in the shower?" Well, to be honest it might have been a bit more bawdy than that, but fortunately, we both got a good laugh out of it, and he clarified that he wasn't referring to his shower!
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