Posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 19:20:25
In reply to Are relationships with T's real, or not?, posted by shrinking violet on August 14, 2004, at 12:49:07
Hi everyone,
I just wanted to post a quick note to say THANK YOU to everyone who has replied so far (any anyone who will do so). I want to sit with this a bit and re-read some replies before writing a more lengthy response. I think I'm also going to print out one or two responses (and the link you gave was helpful, thank you Dinah -- and GG) and use them to write about this a bit. Because it's so confusing I think maybe writing it out will help me be more clear about it when/if I bring it up to my T (I know I need to, but I'm afraid).
I think, too, some attachment/abandonment wounding issues come into play here, as well: I wonder, if our relationship is as "real" and meaningful as it seems to be, then how will she be able to let me walk out of her office after our last session, knowing she'd most likely never see me again? When I think about it, it literally hurts....so I'm thinking I can't possibly mean *that* much to her if she can let me go (there isn't anything that states a T and client explicitly cannot have some sort of contact once therapy ends, right? Or is there? If not, and she chooses not to, well...actions speak louder than words, maybe).
Ah, I'm confused.
Thanks again. I'll keep reading, and I'll respond to direct replies soon.
SV
poster:shrinking violet
thread:377579
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