Posted by B2chica on July 13, 2004, at 11:03:21
In reply to A New Fear, posted by Elle2021 on July 13, 2004, at 7:21:34
>>Okay, now that I have started discussing my traumatic past with my therapist, a new fear has arisen. What if my therapist doesn't think my trauma is valid?
i think this is a very common fear. I myself am still wondering that. but the fact is you have pain, and you can't compare yours to anyone elses, no one else has your combination of life experiences and your personality so it's like comparing apples to oranges...pointless.
-no matter what has happened, you hurt and you were strong enough to ask for help. it's a process that with the right T guiding you, you WILL overcome, it just takes time. AND if your T does make any comments of the sorts...DROP THEM, they are unprofessional and incompetent and should be reported. You are there for help, NOT to be judged, believe me we get enough of that outside their offices!
(((((((Elle)))))))
please take care and i say jump in with both feet (and dive in for help) but keep a rope near by (know that just because they have a degree DOESN'T make them always 100% right that there are bad T's just like there are GREAT ones!)
You need to take care of you. You DESERVE help and love. If you aren't getting what you need- then you need to find a T that is your match. But you must give this T a chance.
One piece of advice from my T that has REALLY freed me up (i mean changed a lot in my life) is that you CAN NOT control peoples responses, only what You say and how You react to their responses. They are going to react however they will, and if it is bad- it may hurt but you couldn't control that and now you will know if that person is worth it or not.
Best of luck, and give yourself that chance to be open, get help and heal.take care.
B2c.
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