Posted by 64bowtie on July 11, 2004, at 3:00:03
In reply to Very weird question, posted by Dinah on July 9, 2004, at 12:26:18
(((Dinah))),
Again, I am so gratefull you let me back into your "Babble" life...
Not so wierd... What your T calls dissociative definitely fills in the Analytical Conundrum well, but ask him what can be changed so that you don't feel the "blackmail" of the bad-feelings?
I was puzzling the other day over a financial problem my 83 yearold Dad is having, when a guy rushed up and stole an expensive bicycle right out of the rack near where I was sitting... I recognised later that if I had yelled at the guy two or three seconds sooner, the owner of the bike could have started running that much sooner and would have caught him, and got his bike back, at least... Instead, I was distracted in thought...
Now I don't plan to be so hypervigilant that I will be like Spiderman and save people from bad-guys at a moments notice... I just recognise that when I have any, even minor, conflict, I perform poorly... I am making the assumption that there is a fine line between dissociation and distraction... I know I wasn't dissociated, I was simply concentrating on a financial puzzle belonging to my Dad...
What I want to say is that once "the road narrows" so that you have fewer distractions and conflicts in your daily life, this unfortunate reaction will be miraculously extinguished... It did mostly for me and I bet you're younger and wiser than I am! You can hurry the process a little by saying "NO!" to your obligations and expectations... Like Nancy Davis-Reagan said, "Just say no!"
I only want the best for you, »(((Dinah)))
Rod
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