Posted by lonelygirl on May 9, 2004, at 19:22:02
In reply to Re: On the other hand... would this bother you?, posted by spoc on May 9, 2004, at 13:44:25
Wow, spoc, this guy really sounds remarkably unhelpful. I don't know if the problem was the fact that he was trying to do analysis or if he just didn't know what the heck he was doing. I am kind of jumping to conclusions here, but it looks like he wasn’t even listening to you! I do have to say I admire you for confronting him about his “approach.” Looks like he basically admitted that he’s rather incompetent.
All of those things definitely would have bothered me. I am a very pessimistic, cynical person, so for me to mention anything positive (like how you thought about going to a museum) sort of feels like going out on a limb to me. To be shot down like that would not only fail to inspire me to use my energy to find a new job, but would probably destroy the positive thought altogether.
As for the comments about manipulation and starting at the top, those just look like indications that he wasn’t even listening to you, but whatever he thought you were saying, the way he put it was needlessly rude and unsupportive. I think it is very discouraging when a supposed “expert” is unable to help you. Kind of makes you feel hopeless, doesn’t it?
I’m sorry to see that you had such a bad experience. I guess I’d be kind of a hypocrite to suggest that you try again, but there really are some good ones out there. I think you would like my psychologist… Ok, I think EVERYONE would like him, because he’s awesome :). Seriously, though, I think that he has a good mix of supportiveness and practicality. He’s very kind and encouraging, but not “overly nurturing.” He has a very rational, logical approach to things (which seems like exactly what you’re looking for), but he’s not mean and unfeeling. His orientation is CBT, so perhaps if you decide to look for someone else, you should consider looking for someone who does CBT.
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