Posted by DaisyM on March 26, 2004, at 15:33:23
In reply to Re: About topics in therapy sessions, posted by gardenergirl on March 26, 2004, at 11:27:13
My Therapist does the same thing. We don't spend tons of time on life's details, enough so that he knows what the stressers are, but usually it is either how I'm coping or how I'm feeling. And then why I feel like I feel. The one exception to this is talking about the traumas of my childhood. He really encourages me to tell the details here...says it needs to come out and he *wants* to hear it, no matter how bad it it.
Or, he relates things I tell him back to "us" and how things are in therapy. This is usually very hard for me, as I struggle with all the needs it brings forth.
Occasionally, I get away with "only" light topics. Or, when things are very bad, we just sit sometimes. Yesterday it was pouring rain, there was thunder off in the distance and I just was able to look out the window for a little while before he called me back. I am slowly learning to trust that his silence isn't anger.
Sometimes there isn't enough time. Other times it is a very long 50 minutes.
Here's another question? Does your Therapist let you leave early if the conversation stalls? Mine doesn't. He usually asks me to sit with whatever is going on and just be there. It can be excruciating and leaving feels like escaping. This is where I say, "I hate having feelings!" He always responds with a gentle, "I know. But you do so you might as well acknowledge them."
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