Posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 10, 2003, at 13:14:17
Part of my therapy is working on my self-esteem and trying not to care so much about how others perceive me or needing their approval. One of my "problems" is that I never think I DESERVE the best of anything. I tend to shortchange myself. What is the rationale behind stating that I indeed deserve the best and that my problems are just as deserving of my therapist's attention than some of his other patients who might be worse off? I have told him that I feel guilty for being there, that I am probably taking up his valuable time which could be better spent with a person whose problems are more severe. I tell him I feel I should be with a student or a therapist in trianing or something rather than him, who has been practicing for over 20 years and is very well respected.
He assures me that he treats my problems as seriously as everyone else's and that I "deserve the best care possible."
I cannot grasp this concept. I can say it to myself several hundred times a day that I am a person deserving of the best, but I need an actual EXPLANATION as to why??? For me, CBT will only work unless I have some sort of explanation behind the so-called rational thoughts, as opposed to just reciting a bunch of feel good words.
Has anyone been through this and come out of the other side?
poster:Miss Honeychurch
thread:288418
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