Posted by DaisyM on November 6, 2003, at 22:03:02
In reply to Re: Session wasn't so bad but... » DaisyM, posted by Dinah on November 6, 2003, at 20:53:47
Dinah,
My Therapist is a psychotherapist but not in the "he never talks" sense. He does ask a lot of questions about how I am feeling "right now" and we explore "our" relationship sometimes. He does joke and he is pretty gentle. He flips from pushing to being supportive during a crisis. I see him twice a week "for now." We went to this in September when we really started to de-construct past events. :(
He recognizes that the therapy discussions may actually be causing the crisis aftermaths -- so he is generally available by phone or for extra sessions. I have pretty good insurance so they don't limit stuff.I don't think he is bored, but I worry that it is too much negativity --too many "my life sucks" statements. He tries to help me focus on what I did that "worked" or made me feel stronger, better, etc. I have to admit that when he does that I feel like he thinks I'm better than I think I am or I can't sustain feeling strong and then I don't want to admit this.
My son has a CBT -- who I love and adore but he is totally into "admit it bothers you and move on." Works for kids and anxiety but I don't think it would work for the mess I'm sorting out.
Most of this depression is about grief -- we've identified this key -- both current (my hubbie is really ill and really angry about all that this means) and past - my childhood was kind of a mess and I am just beginning to revisit and admit this.
Add all this with a mid-life crisis! Maybe my Therapist should charge double! I guess I just really like him so I don't want him to see me as the "problem" client. Not the role I'm use to playing.
-D
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