Posted by Rigby on August 7, 2003, at 18:03:14
Hi Everyone,
I've been lurking a bit and decided to finally post.
I'm in the process of trying to stop therapy. I began about 18 months ago. I feel a lot better about my life but the one thing I *don't* like is the darn dependency developed on this therapist!
There has always been "chemistry" between my therapist and me (in my opinion) and it seemed like it was somewhat mutual (my gut feel.) At some point she told me I was "special" and that she didn't have this kind of relationship with any of her other clients. When I asked what "kind of relationship" meant she said she wasn't as "close." I figured my instincts were right on about the chemistry.
I've been in the process of trying to leave and last time she said she wanted to apologize for "getting lost" with her boundaries. She said she doesn't think she's done me any good--and she feels that it may be the reason I am feeling conflicted about leaving. She said she had her reasons for messing up boundaries etc. but wasn't going to tell me.
My honest feelings are that I felt chemistry w/ her from the beginning--well before any real therapy began and I would prefer a relationship outside of therapy than w/in. But maybe I should just bag the whole thing. But I'm really "interested" in her.
I know that this kind of thing is totally taboo and I know nothing will come of it but if I had to be honest that's how I feel.
Any thoughts on this would be appreciated--thank you!
Rigby
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