Posted by jane d on November 28, 2002, at 10:03:50
In reply to Re: therapist suggests 12-step program » m3, posted by Medusa on November 21, 2002, at 14:15:34
> What Mark said.
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> And a view on DA ... I went to meetings when I lived in a different city, and it's not like other 12-step programs. The name is misleading - they also deal with things like underearning, misallocation of resources (such as spending money on CDs instead of paying your electricity bill), "time debting", insufficient saving and other stuff. The group I attended was hard-core and used "the tools" pretty stringently. Some of the "tools" have scary names. I winced when I was told I needed "a pressure group meeting", but they're meant to take pressure off.
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> So while pushing back on your therapist, think about secretly scouting a few meetings. I've been to some loony ones in cities other than one I mention above. If the group is full of 12-step-junkies (addicted to groups), find a different group ... maybe by asking what meetings the loonies would avoid. Usually they'll say "oh, Saturday afternoon at the VFW is a bunch of uptights", which is a pretty good indication you won't be overwhelmed with gourd-talk and whatever else people find to waste time with.Medusa,
I like your approach to finding an acceptable meeting. I'll remember it. Would you mind explaining a little more about how the good groups of Debtors Anonymous work to someone who has no 12 step experience? For example, what are "the tools"? Time debting? How can they take pressure off? Any information you, or anyone else, can give me would be very much appreciated.Jane
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