Posted by floatingbridge on April 20, 2011, at 10:43:01
In reply to Re: the only way out, posted by sigismund on April 20, 2011, at 1:06:12
sigi, yes, it's very true to my experience that meeting anger of that sort (hmmm, or any...?) with mine is a lose lose situation.
Yesterday, just by coincidence, I was able to meet my son's absolute rage with some equanimity. (That's the upside of being ill w/ stress-responsive ailmemts; I can't afford to get too upset:-/ )
I did need to use my 'voice of god'. Different than yelling. We really worked on the trigger event when he calmed down (a classmate interaction). Which was pretty rapid. Amazing. The rapidity w/which it subsided. He's a pretty sensitive boy. Quick to take umbrage.
Provocative is a very useful word. Here too, in my son's case; therefore I can picture your young daughter and the ice cream quite vividly.
Girls can be quite willful. Amazingly so. All the more surprising because, at least in the US it is schooled out of them regularly. Boys, well, they get, imho, too
much slack line early, (boys will be boys), only to have the heat turned up if they fail to perform in the early grades. Very confusing and harmful.E. B. White, writing as Templeton the Rat, while observing Avery in Charlotte's Web: what fantastic creatures boys are!
Having never been one, I'm inclined to agree.
Sigi, thanks so much. I am very glad to hear that your experience of depression was not so invasive. And that anxiety, well, that you seem to have a very workable relationship with it. I think I'm going to return the thread to poser. I feel like an absolute chatterbox. I'll visit social.
*a rose by any name
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