Posted by morgan miller on February 27, 2011, at 1:21:07
In reply to Re: Ferber » Phillipa, posted by Dinah on February 26, 2011, at 19:21:50
>I suspect that human infants were designed to be resilient.
Dinah, I'm really sorry, but I find this kind of statement made my people that are parents to be a way of shedding responsibility and staying in denial so as to protect our own feelings of guilt.
This belief is also very counterproductive to making progressing beyond what has been the prevailing conditions for a long time, and getting back to how things were and were meant to be. I'm talking about before we starting making things complicating and began the cycle of hurt. It is a cycle by the way. Hurt does not just go away and children are not so resilient as to be able to recover from hurt on their own. If you want to refer to resilience as denial, or behavior deviations, or relationship troubles, or artistic expression, etc., then I guess children going through development to adulthood are very very resilient.Scott said this same thing. I believe he said it as a way to minimize the impact that his early years may have had on the development of his mental illness.
Again, Sorry Dinah. I'm sure you are a very good mother. My previous post was not meant to insinuate that you were not a good parent. I was simply arguing why it matters that we break things down, analyze them as much as possible, and begin to place more responsibily on parents, both mother and father.
Morgan
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