Posted by psychodad on April 4, 2004, at 16:51:19
In reply to Re: i am lost and in pain, posted by shadows721 on April 4, 2004, at 15:38:29
I agree... walk away now and don't turn back. It's just not worth it. You should not be in a relationship where anger controls your actions. Passion should be beautiful, not ugly. OK, so maybe you can work things out and this girl is the one who will become your lifetime mate. But, more likely is the chance that you should keep looking. Set this woman free. Give yourself some space from her. If in a couple months you can't get her out of your mind, then call her, but for now walk away. Put some distance between you and her and see what happens.
I've been with my wife for 14 years now, we dated for 8 and have been married for 6. We had 4-5 arguments in that period, but nothing ever physically abusive. We are still passionately in love with each other. If she pushed me in the face or vice versa we'd probably never see each other again. That is a line not to be crossed.
You need to ask yourself, have you ever had this happen in any of your other relationships? Is this a first? If you have a history of abuse, seek help, if this is the first, then there is probably something not right with this situation.
Good luck!
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