Posted by KimberlyDi on November 26, 2003, at 9:14:10
In reply to Empower Me To Get Out Of This Doomed Relationship!, posted by Robert Jose Smith on November 26, 2003, at 2:10:05
I would stop wasting time blaming all this on her. You are 1/2 of the problem, remember that. Put your troubles with her on the back burner and concentrate on fixing yourself. Go see a pdoc and a therapist. The pdoc to get back on an Anti-Depressant, and the therapist to weed through your feelings of responsibility and guilt for this woman/child. You might want to try a few CODA meetings (co-dependency anonymous groups).
When you know yourself more, and why you do what you do, knowing the right thing to do will come easier. Good Luck!
KDi in TX
> I feel like I have seperation anxieties. I'm in this relationship with this girl. She and I are not alike as she has this explosive temper and can really act like a toddler, she used to be worse. It's during these abusive times that you would think it would be easy to leave her, but I get so freaked out and feel this horrible guilt as if she's my responsibility. She basically doesn't want to work. I've spent all my $ and am trying to finish school. Traditional breakup methods won't work as she's so dependent she's nothing like when I met her (was a facade)--she can't keep a car or make money. She conned me out of taking Zoloft blaming that on the relationship troubles which is a common ploy to blame things). I broke up with la conquistadora but I was unhappy and didn't meet anybody so I've went back out with her.
> So I'm miserable and I've even had other girls way more like me and more beautiful than her to go out with but I feel anxious. I just kindof stood this girl up who has ambition and a car and things in common with me and is beaufiul--I was nervous! I've got ADD what's the best med for me? Any recommendations?
> Past experiences? The only thing I want to watch out for is a drug that is contraidicated for ADD.
> I tried no drugs--but that was pretty lame;)
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