Posted by Lorraine on August 2, 2001, at 22:25:46
In reply to Re: mostly to Lorraine but others feel free to jump in » Elizabeth, posted by shelliR on August 2, 2001, at 21:04:23
> > > subclinical DID"! Did you create a new diagnosis for me :-)
Isn't that cool? Your very own personalized diagnosis. How considerate of you, elizabeth.< g >
> > > Me too! I was just working up to reentering the world of intimacy when I got rezapped with this depression. To be in a relationship with the depression is one thing; to start one is another.
I honestly can't imagine where I'd find the resources to do this.
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> > > There also was some sexual abuse by my father when I was older.
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> Wow, I'm sorry Lorraine. I'm amazed with your past how well you have been able to handle a long-term intimate relationship with your husband. I give you lots of credit. (and your husband too, if he deserves it and it sounds like he does also).It's funny. My mom was sexually abused from the age of 7 to 12 (as was her sister, neither was aware of the abuse to the other until they were in their 60s and finally talked about it). My mom has a robust sexual appetite--always did and was frustrated by my father's lack of interest. My abuse was not until I was 15 or 16 and it was mild. So I don't think it affected my sexuality much. My husband has not had to be understanding about my past because for the most part it hasn't affected him. I did find him to be very unsympathetic about my sexual dysfunction caused by SSRIs, especially after he started taking Viagra < vbg >. In the end, you know, asking someone who is not impaired to give up their sex life is actually a pretty big deal.
> > > Well, if the depression feels in your body, then body therapy might be really helpful. Especially now that you've (L.) talked about abuse, I said before that I believe that horrible experiences in childhood, get sort of calcified in the body. For instance if someone is hurting you, you often hold your breath. If getting hurt (or abused) is a pattern, your body starts anticipating and after a while, your body has changed. I think body therapy can help reprogram your body to be the way it's supposed to be-more fluid, etc.This makes sense. I'll look into it. And, I'm sure being burned and being in the hospital in isolation (under one of those tents) also got etched in my body.
> > > I love the word robust. Especially when describing medications :-)Me too. Let's hope it lasts.
Lorraine
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