Posted by Cam W. on June 15, 2000, at 9:02:54
In reply to Thanks guys gals, posted by tina on June 15, 2000, at 7:09:11
Tina - I was doing what your husband is doing now in about 1994. I did crash, big time. I think it may have had something to do with my depression. Us guys sometimes try to deal with emotions by ignoring them. The easiest way to do that is to stay extremely busy. This would be fine for most of us except that our bodys reach a point where they are too exhausted to continue. This is the point where I crashed.
I tried the SSRIs and finally had success with Wellbutrin. The initial rush of energy I got while starting Wellbutrin led me to believe that I could be able to do even more work, since I felt refreshed. That didn't last long, but as the drug took effect, I found that a lot of the stuff I was rushing to get done, really was not that important. I now still do too much, but at least I priortize it. I have six month old work in my file cabinet that needs to be done, but if it can wait 6 months it can probably wait another six (it is always nice to have some work available for when I do catch up - ha-ha).
The best you can do for your husband is to support him, at this point. We guys have to figure out we are doing too much. No one can tell us otherwise. Try to plan something for the two of you to do while he is on holidays, to get him away from his distractions. It may seem (to him) like it is adding one more thing to do, but this break would probably do him some good (eg see a baseball game, go to wrestling, play some pool; you know - guy things. Picnics and candle-lit dinners don't cut it for us).
Hope this gives you some insight into the mind of a guy - Cam
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