Posted by kazoo on March 22, 2000, at 3:13:39
In reply to Afraid to drive following divorce, posted by Liz on March 21, 2000, at 18:13:21
> My best friend was divorced last summer and has been avoiding driving farther than a couple miles since then. She has been seeing a psychiatrist for 'therapy' and he also gives her Xanax. She is not improved at all. I suggested maybe an antidepressant might help. Does this sound familiar to anybody and what is the treatment. BTW she initiated the divorce and has a good job as an administrator of a foundation. She is also finishing a PhD currently. I'm getting tired of driving her places, plus I think she could be getting better given appropriate treatment.
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Say what?
Let me see if I understand this revolting development: she gets a divorce and then develops AUTOPHOBIA?
Does she dream of big, hair carburetors chasing her to EXXON stations?
There appears to be a big gaping hole in rationale here between the event and the subsequent action.
It sounds to me that she's just lazy, and is a mooch; i.e., taking advantage of your kindness ... but
enough is enough, and you indicate that you're fed up with it, too! Little wonder!
This woman doesn't need a therapist ... she needs bus passes. Or a bicycle.
Just say "no" to the next request because you are, in essence, enabling her so-called fear of driving.
In fact, you may be doing her a favor by forcing her into a position where she would have no choice but
to face her fear(s), and do something about it on her own. She's using you as a crutch.
Why should *she* have to drive when she has a good friend to do this for her?
I bet her fear would quickly dissipate if she drove a spiffy new Ferrari.
I apologize if I sound cruel, cold, callous and crass (my better points), but I just don't buy this crock of crap.kazoo
Kinder thoughts: is it *really* driving she fears ... or fears being alone *while* driving.
Only her therapist can determine this, and, quite frankly, I don't believe any drug would help in this sort of
situation.
poster:kazoo
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