Posted by Adam on February 2, 2000, at 23:22:22
In reply to Re: Depression and procreation...Racer, posted by Abby on February 1, 2000, at 12:23:27
Thank you all for your words.Dove, your experiences are exactly what I'm afraid of, and your
bravery and compassion are admirable. I guess it's just one of
those things: I'm not at that bridge yet, so maybe I ought not
to dwell too much on crossing it. I just would hate to think
some time in the future after things are really serious it
becomes an issue that can't be ignored or agreed upon. I'd
rather, in such circumstances, get the heartache over with now.
But it's probably too soon.I still don't know what I'd do.
It's hard. I mean, I would really like to have just one person
some day. I've been through the love cuisinart enough, thanks.
Not one single woman I have dated or gotten really serious with
didn't want kids in the worst way some day. My current S.O. is
a bit older than me, too, and though she doesn't harp on it,
the biological clock is ticking rather loudly, I guess. I used
to kind of poo-poo the whole concept (I thought it rather sexist
to assume that perhaps the majority of the women I know felt a
real urge to make a baby, like "jeez, are we all salmon or
something?") Then when something approaching paternal urges hit
me from out of nowhere...yikes!Now that almost all my female friends are nearly 30 or in their
30's, the ones who haven't found a soul mate have been openly
discussing the issue with me. A couple are even thinking of just
having a kid on their own, though not very seriously.Not a single one seems too concerned about their genetic
heritage. For the majority, if they have suffered from mental
illness, I'm not aware of it. I bet it wouldn't matter.I just don't know. I look back at my ancestry and it's a grim
sight indeed. I've never felt too keen about the idea of
perpetuating my family line. I figured, being a thinking
individual, I would let it end with me.I guess there's just no way to know what the right thing to do
is in this situation.
poster:Adam
thread:20155
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