Posted by Racer on November 11, 1999, at 17:55:09
In reply to Re: "Coming out" to a loved one?, posted by PL on November 11, 1999, at 13:32:23
Let's see, my question brought a lurker out in the open, provided fuel for a Dr Laura bonfire, and showed that PL is finally feeling better!
So, in reverse order:
Congratulations, PL!!! I'm so glad to hear such positive news and views from you! I remember your first posts here, and how much they touched me. I'm so happy to hear that you're getting some relief.
To Noa, thanks for jumping in, and much of what you said rang true.
To Grandma, thank you for your concern for me. It is nice to think that people care, whether or not you actually have met me face to face.
Now, to all of you, and anyone else who's listening:
This fellow is very much like me. When I say that he's perfect, I do not mean that he's "Perfect!", just that he's perfect for me. I've never felt this sort of connection to a man before, though I have felt the same thing before with women: and each of the women I've felt this connected to is still a close friend. What makes this different is beyond my ability to describe. We can talk about everything, and anything, and he doesn't think I'm weird for telling obscure jokes, and I don't object to his puns, and we get along great. I don't have to slow down t oallow him to catch up, he's always there with me.
And for living together: For years I've said that I never want to live with anyone ever again, and that I'd only marry a man who would buy a duplex and live next door to me. This is the first person I've ever dated that I could see sharing with. So, please don't think of this as crazed and impulsive. This is a tentative reaching out to make a good relationship better, rather than holding back to protect myself and thereby destroying trust and connection.
Does any of htat make sense?
poster:Racer
thread:14978
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/19991108/msgs/15025.html